Some men caress women to get them ready for sex. I humiliate and inflict pain on my wife. It all started with rough sex and the rougher I got the better she liked it. Both of us were more excited by the pain and humiliation than the actual sex. We began to experiment with our foreplay until it morphed into S&M sex. I am 32 and Lisa is 37 and plump. We now have a mini dungeon in the basement so sex often happens on the basement floor or my work bench. We can't or wont wait to get upstairs for fear that the excitement will be lost if we don't do it immediately and where we are at the time. Phil & Maggie Bennett